When You Fall Off, Get Back On


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How many times have we heard it said, if you fall of the horse, you have to get back on. This is for lots of reasons – to keep fear at bay – to face fear head on – to try again and again and again. It doesn’t matter if it’s a diet, not drinking alcohol, an exercise regime, prayer time, not being so OCD, starting college, not giving into temptation, all of them are scary and all of us will fail at at least one of them at one point in time in our lives. What separates the winners from the losers, doing it again. If you have a weak moment, think it through. Why did you give in? A person? A desire? To be popular? Personal gain? If you can pinpoint the WHY then you can figure out the HOW. We can’t figure out how to stop something if we don’t know why we are doing it. Sometimes, it’s a human thing. You want to be popular so you lower your standards to fit into that crowd. Doesn’t get you anywhere down the road, but for now, you are satisfied. Until the next time… And Sometimes, it’s just the devil. He has a funny way of putting things into “perspective” doesn’t he? He makes you think you need to do something, pushes that internal urge until you succumb to it. Then comes the conviction. That feeling in the pit of your stomach where you feel so wretched for what you did. It doesn’t matter how many times you say, “sorry God”, you still feel horrible. Conviction isn’t a bad thing, condemnation however, is. We have to get to a point where we can “get back on” when God forgives us. There is no sense in punishing yourself for something God has already cleared you of. That’s like a judge saying you are innocent of murder, but you throw yourself in jail anyways. Really? Sorry, but that is stupid! haha

So live tomorrow with your lessons learned behind you, and your new faith filled adventures in front of you. Even when we mess up, someone who is truly a child of the Lord, will still be blessed and given favor. I messed up recently. (Sorry, you don’t get the details on this one! 🙂 ) And God still showed me tremendous favor just a few days later. It’s because He knows my heart. Does He know your heart? Or let me ask you a better question… do you know your heart? What you stand for? What you will say no to? How far down will you allow yourself to go before you make that change – and begin living less for you and more for HIM!?!

Reblog: “A Call To Forgive” By Therese Shelesky

This woman has an amazing story. She overcame bitterness of losing a relationship with her child!

It’s difficult when people hurt us, especially those we love and those who are hard to love.  Whether family, friend or foe, bottom line it hurts and depending on the offense, it can make us down right out angry, unforgiving and bitter!

Over the years I have been hurt, who hasn’t.  I have suffered at the hand of others many times – – physically, verbally and relationally.  The most heart wrenching was the loss of my relationship with my daughter.  A loss that was, in part, because my daughter heard an abundance of hurtful words about me from others.

As a disciple of Christ, if I choose to hold onto the hurt, the pain, and/or bitterness and resentment, then my heart will become hardened – – it will be blocked from being able to love, to forgive and to heal.  In fact, it will distance me from my relationship with God and His Son.  The Psalmist David wrote in Psalm 103:8-12 “The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in loving-kindness.  He will not always strive with us, nor will He keep His anger forever.  He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor rewarded us according to our iniquities.  For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His loving-kindness toward those who fear Him.  As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.  Just as a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him.  For He Himself knows our frame; He is mindful that we are but dust.”

Looking back at the mistakes I’ve made over the years, I know that I have hurt others – – I am not exempt from causing the same pain that others have caused me.  As a Disciple of Christ, these mistakes were in need of making right, asking for forgiveness and proactively doing my best to reconcile with those I hurt.  One of those mistakes was with my daughter’s father.  With the help and strength of Jesus, I took the steps needed for reconciliation and, regardless of my daughter and I not being reconciled to this day, my heart rejoices over letting go of the pain I caused my daughters father.

Bottom line – – if God is compassionate, gracious, slow to anger, loving, kind, patient and forgiving with me – – ME, the one who has made so many mistakes, poor choices and hurtful decisions to the point of not only hurting others but also my Creator – – who am I not to forgive another who has hurt me?  God forgives and forgets – – “as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgression from us.”  “He has not dealt with us according to our sins.”

As a disciple of Christ, I am to follow that teaching and example.  Regardless of the offense, I choose to forgive those who have hurt me, like God forgives me – –



To reach Therese Shelesky:

Women of The Way Ministries
Attn: Therese M. Shelesky
P.O. Box 776017
Steamboat Springs, CO 80477

Sincerely Disappointed

Nothing feels worse to me than when someone lets you down. Of course that subject can span many other details including lieing, cheating, abandonment, and countless others. As people, we try hard to do what we can to gain trust and accountability with others which in turn builds friendships and relationships. I’m dealing with this as we speak. I have tried so hard to try and ignore the signs but I just can’t anymore. It breaks my heart to know that what I see on my end of the relationship is either (1) not what this other person sees or (2) not what this person is choosing to see. I’m not sure where the “line” is that separates the two options but it exists nonetheless. I think I would rather someone choose option (1) than to know they are ON PURPOSE choosing to act the way they are. At least if it’s option (1), you can talk about it and fix it. (Lord Willing!)

But what happens when they are choosing option (2)? Do I let this person go and relinquish any relationship I have with them? Do I choose option (2) as well and just “choose to ignore” what is happening and just not build any further on this relationship? Or do I add an option (3)… Have a conversation with this person (call them on the carpet if you will) and then leave it in their hands to decide the fate of this relationship.

I’m really heartbroken over this. My heart just wants to cry and scream because of the surrounding details and the position it has left me in. The details of this relationship are so inner woven in my life it makes things even harder. I know the first thing I must do is ask for forgiveness for the bitterness I hold. It’s not easy by any means. In fact, I really don’t want to… but I must. God says in 1 Kings 8:50:

“And forgive Your people, who have sinned against You, and all their transgressions against You, and grant them compassion before those who took them captive, that they may have pity and be merciful to them…”

If we go on to read in scripture it even addresses the mere THOUGHTS I think about this person, not only what is said verbally: “Behold my affliction and my pain and forgive all my sins [of thinking and doing].” – Psalm 25:18 (Amplified Version) This speaks more than anything to me because it’s so easy to get thoughts in my head and work myself up about things.

After my bitterness is under control I know it’s time for some deep seeded prayer. Maybe that is all I can do in the end? Regardless of how things turn out – I have to know BEYOND A SHADOW OF A DOUBT – I handled everything correctly as God would see fit. If I meet that requirement, everything else will play out accordingly.

“Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.”- Philippians 4:6-7

Dressed? or Naked?

I have a challenge for you today:

Everyone has someone they consider an “enemy”. It could be a friend who has done you wrong, a co-worker who stepped over you to gain a promotion, a family member who cut you so deeply you want nothing to do with them anymore… The possibilities are endless. I understand your flesh is saying “No way. I’m not giving them anything else”… see, you already have a person in your mind or you wouldn’t have even thought this statement.

By conquering your flesh you will experience such a sense of accomplishment you will actually enjoy it. God says to forgive – you too have wronged someone and hurt them deeply. Maybe your challenge should include an apology to that person? God also says to go and make good with your brothers (and sisters).

CHALLENGE: Somehow, someway, do something over the top  nice for this person that has hurt you. And if applicable, go to a person you know you have wronged and make it right. Ask for their forgiveness. God won’t forgive you if you are holding grudges against someone else. Here is your chance to make it right.

Colossians 3:12-14 (The Message)

12-14So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.

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Are you dressed with love? or naked with hostility?