Everyone has things in their lives that are “full” or “empty”. Some people call them “tanks”, some “space”; today I’m going to refer to them as “wells”. Like a water well. A water well is drilled out with time and careful instruction. Great skill is needed to penetrate through rock, gravel, clay and sand. This is no different than our lives – time is taken to drill each well in our life. Every layer drilled through is another layer of security, trust, commitment we must get a drill through. We are careful throughout the entire process to not chip a layer, or allow the drill to go sideways so to ruin the well. We want it perfect in every way. So our wells are built and we let them fill up. Each well is filled with feelings, security, love, passion, commitment, excitement, and every other part of us.
But if we aren’t careful, and don’t make sure our wells are tended to, they can dry up and become empty.
I have wells in my life that are empty or severely low. Some are my own fault. My insecurities have gotten the best of me in many ways as I privately struggle with things. Much like you, I too, have massive insecurities I fight my way through. This time they have won – at least temporarily. Other wells in my life are empty because of other people. When it’s my own fault, I have the ability to try and refill my own well by correcting whatever behavior has caused it – after all – it’s my fault! But when it is others, I can’t fix it. I can speak to those people and let them know how I feel, or how they are affecting me; however, ultimately, it’s out of my control. Those wells in my life will just have to be empty and I’ll just have to deal with things as they are because I can’t change people.
But here is the amazing thing… even with other people’s individual decisions might affect you – you don’t have to remain with dry wells. Now granted, it might not be the same full well your “human body” is used to, but your spiritual side will reap a benefit like none other. When we allow God to infiltrate our systems – our wells – then we realize a few things:
1. We are working way too hard for what could be easy
2. We are looking at things completely backwards
When you strive to accomplish something without God – you can accomplish it. However, to sustain it, you also have to do all the work yourself which in turn will complicate your life tremendously. When we allow God to do the work for us it’s easy to sustain where He puts us. If I try to change someone else by changing what I do (for example) I’m not going to be able to keep up with the challenges I have set before myself. Eventually I will want to return to who I really am. Not to mention, you are causing the other person to think you are someone you aren’t. If you allow God to change that person (or yourself) then everything will work out to your advantage and comfort.
We look at things backwards because we think WE should do X, Y and Z – fix the problem – problem solved! In reality, we need to sit back and allow GOD to do X, Y and Z and allow HIM to fix the problem. He is ready and willing to assist us in our needs we just never seem to allow Him to 🙂
The empty areas in my life I just have to trust will work themselves out. I can stay hydrated through His music, His word, His conversations with me… but in order to do that I have to make sure I am making time for Him. Not easy in a busy world – especially with already being overwhelmed by the thought of how my life will change very soon in the next 6-8 weeks. But it’s a necessity. You can’t change others – demanding them to be something they either don’t want to be or something they aren’t quite ready to be – is out of the question. You and I alike, can only do one thing if we really want life to work out for us as best it can and not be miserable… Trust God.
The wells that are empty will be renewed. This verse was shared with me in church on Sunday morning from my pastor – and OH – did it knock me off my feet! (Not to mention bring a flood of tears to my eyes!)
New King James Version (NKJV)
11 The Lord will guide you continually,
And satisfy your soul in drought,
And strengthen your bones;
You shall be like a watered garden,
And like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.