We Can’t Pick and Choose

No one is pardoned from trials. No pastor, teacher, christian or non-christian is eliminated from hard times, trials, and frustration.  No one is pardoned from making mistakes either. When something happens in our lives that hurts us we want to lash out in anger, destructive words and things that would make that person feel worse than they probably already do. But we can’t do this. We need to be honest in how we feel, but there is a way to be tactful and honest. When I’m angry – as in someone has double crossed me – I want to blow up. When someone has hurt me – I cry my eyes out and then most likely go thru emotions of anger because I may not understand why something has happened.

At the end of the day – I have to treat a situation like Christ would treat it. I have had my feelings hurt — who hasn’t? Sure, I could have screamed and shouted and went off like a raving lunatic but what would that really accomplish? God would give forgiveness, mercy and love. So I decided to approach the situation like this. Everyone deserves forgiveness regardless of the matter at hand. Granted, it’s not always easy… forgiveness is like love – it’s not an emotion, it’s an action. God commands us to forgive and turn both cheeks. We can’t pick and choose what we are forgiving and what we are not.

Galatians 6:1 MSG

Live creatively, friends. If someone falls into sin, forgivingly restore him, saving your critical comments for yourself. You might be needing forgiveness before the day’s out.
So what is mercy? The dictionary defines it as the following:



1. Compassionate treatment, especially of those under one’s power; clemency.
2. A disposition to be kind and forgiving: a heart full of mercy.
3. Something for which to be thankful; a blessing: It was a mercy that no one was hurt.
4. Alleviation of distress; relief: Taking in the refugees was an act of mercy.
God gives us relief everyday. If you screwed up wouldn’t you want mercy? So why wouldn’t you give it to someone else? It’s only fair. Obviously I’m not referring to someone who has done the same thing over and over and over again. Even God gets to a point where He has had enough.
Lastly is love. God says the most important thing is love. Whether it’s love in a situation of forgiveness or a love needed in a marriage, love is love. God speaks of love over and over again in scripture.

Leviticus 19:18 MSG

“Don’t seek revenge or carry a grudge against any of your people. “Love your neighbor as yourself. I am God.

Numbers 14:18 MSG

God, slow to get angry and huge in loyal love, forgiving iniquity and rebellion and sin; Still, never just whitewashing sin. But extending the fallout of parents’ sins to children into the third, even the fourth generation.

Jeremiah 31:3 MSG

…  God told them, “I’ve never quit loving you and never will. Expect love, love, and more love!
As human beings, obviously we struggle a little more that Jesus does! lol We have our feelings that get in the way. We can be selfish, mean, over bearing, angry, non-supportive, stuck up, insulting, cold hearted and many other words you can think of. It’s our job to pray for God to help us through these feelings when we are hurt. When I’m hurt – I am praying for God to allow me to work through my feelings quickly. For Him to help me rebuild trust if it had been broken, help me to not think certain thoughts in my head or maybe not remember certain images that can so easily play over and over like a broken record. You NEED to work through things instead of pushing them out of your mind. Feelings/emotions not dealt with can cause so many other issues which will cause the list of feelings above. Don’t take out on someone else what you should be working through with God. Remember, you don’t have to do it by yourself. Talk to someone about it. It’s your choice. Keep it in — and take the chance of not allowing relationships to move forward and gain strength. Talk about it — and guarantee that your relationships will move forward and gain strength. It won’t be easy at first but it will get easier. Don’t allow the enemy to convince you you can do it all on your own. Even God says to help each other:

Look after each other so that not one of you will fail to find God’s best blessings. What out that no bitterness takes root among you, for as it springs up it causes deep trouble, hurting many in their spiritual lives. Hebrews 12:15TLB



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